2.question

Does boundary work relate to issues to do with sex closeness and intimacy.

They have everything to do with that.

When we come close to someone esp sexually and start to open to very deep and exposed places inside us  then it is very necessary to establish some kind of understandings and agreements and commitments.

Maybe for some people this is a desire to be sexually monogamous,  for others it could involve multiple partners but the agreement is that these external connections don’t disturb the primary connection.

In order to feel safe there has to be some ground.

Otherwise to open would be too frightening and even maybe even dangerous.

Most of us have come to sexuality  with a lot of  unhealed shame and shock  in our systems  because of this have let people run over our boundaries or have run over our own boundaries.

We have such a desire to be loved and cherished and desired that we will do any kind of compromise to have that happen.

Even throwing our boundaries and self respect out of the window.

So to heal it is important to develop the sensitivity to our bodies and energy and sex to see what is really nourishing and intimate for us and to honour and respect that even if it means at times to say no to the person we love.

The problem with that is we cannot expect people to love us for saying no.

This is one of the issues that comes with maturity to allow each of us the space to have our own boundaries even if it makes us have to feel our deprivation.

So it is a journey to maturity and respect.

3.question

When you work with people ,  how do you  make them feel safe and what is special about you?

The first thing is that my great intention is to have people feel safe.

For that there is no pressure and judgement and that people feel that they will be accepted to be themselves.

People are very sensitive so they can pick up the smallest judgement or pressure and that will make them close and contract.

So we present an atmosphere that is very loving and supportive and safe.

Then we meditate and in meditation people find the greatest freedom to be themselves and to express themselves in their own  way.

What is special about me is that when I work it more that there is space for Osho to do the work.

I learned very early to let the master do it.

So the less ego there is also the more people feel safe .

That they wont be manipulated or controlled.

For anyone to trust it is never easy and therefore we have to be present, consistent and calm and spacious.

The co dep work brings in all these elements and also in a very respectful and slow way.

So no one is pushed back into their shame and shock.

4.question

In Hamburg you once worked with a large group of very different people, some new and some with yoears of experiences with groups. You did not loose one of them. How did you manage to bring the whole group together?

How this happens is that what I teach in the work is universal and there is a truth that people can relate to at whatever level they come into the group.

It is universal and collective that people desire to love and be loved to be intimate and to feel safe.

Everyone understands this and so when it is resented to them they can all relate to it and it creates a feeling of oneness and  universality.

That in itself is intimacy.

So it really doesn’t matter what your group experience is if your heart is open and you are searching for something.

Whatever that is,

Maybe you are searching for love,  or for clarity or for the answer to a conflict.

We make space for everyone to be included in their own level.